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| A is married to B who has cheated on her but they are trying to reconcile but B is inconsistent. C loves A but is married to D but wants to keep responsible relationships with both A and D. Whom should A choose ? | |||
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| I can't help but think that B has rather forfeited the right to the sort of consideration and patience that A has been showing (him) but my reasoning isn't very judicious, in that two wrongs don't make a right. C loves A, even though A is supposed to be in a relationship with D; A and D's relationship doesn't sound like it's worth preserving, certainly not in the name of anything so nebulous as 'responsibility'; we are talking about love here, your very lives, or at least you say we are, and that must take precedence over 'good form', else what is the point of living at all. I suspect A should pack it in with B, and C should pack it in with D, and then, perhaps, A and C might be free to give it a shot, but I would counsel A and D strongly against starting the 'illicit' relationship as the means of bringing that desired situation about. I think it might help to see that there are two separate issues here, on the one hand unsatisfactory relationships that do no-one any good and perhaps have had their day, and on the other the possibility of one that might be good or at least freedom and new beginnings for all parties, although at some considerable, but probably unavoidable, cost, which will be borne mainly by D, I think. Try to keep those issues separate, if at all possible, rather than letting the former be the pre-emptive means to the latter. I feel sad for D, who appears quite innocent in this whole matter, but surely D will be better off in the long run, free to look for someone who really does love (her) - D doesn't, any more, I gather. B must content (himself) with whatever B gets. A and D must be very careful to be sure that they aren't just kidding themselves about this 'love'; it's no small step they are contemplating - or have already taken?! Trousers first, THEN shoes, is the point I am trying so clumsily to make. This way, nobody will be hurt any more than they have to be. Honesty has the curious power of minimising suffering, I have found, and that is, implicitly, the sort of prescription you are seeking: a just one. |
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| I have been a guarantor for some one to get a bedsit. This person has not paid any rent since October and I have had it to pay/. I can no longer afford this and have sent a letter in giving one months notice on being a guarantor. They have written back saying I cant do that I have to pay until march. I can not afford to pay anymore. | |||
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| I am afraid if you are guarantor you are liable for any debts and rent as long as the rental agreement says. usually this is only done by a parent for a child so I hope you have a way to get your money back maybe through small claims court. Read your rental agreement that you signed to check you have to pay until march. | |||
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| A is married to B who has cheated on her but they are trying to reconcile but B is inconsistent. C loves A but is married to D but wants to keep responsible relationships with both A and D. Whom should A choose ? | |||
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| My answer is very simple. Dump them both start again with someone who is single and will be faithful to you. There are loads of nice single people in this world I hope you can find one. | |||
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| Can I ask for official transport instead of transport allowance in public sector undertakings? | |||
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| I would think only if you don't drive and there is no public transport between the meeting and your home. Best to ask and check. | |||
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| I am 34 and married for last two years. It is a negotiated marriage where my husband has son from his first wife. She had ditched him and left him and the son behind and fled for another man. After their marriage was nullified by the court, we got married which was negotiated by our families. We were happy all these years but suddenly my husband has contacted his first wife and sent the son to her. The child is now staying with her. My husband started undue relationships with her and told me that all was due to the welfare of the child. I have been treated very badly, even physically abused. I had left his residence and am staying with my father for last two months. Now he is repenting and promises me not to repeat his actions and not to hurt me anymore. However, the fact remains that the son will stay with his mother and he will communicate with them only for the welfare and educational and well being of the child. He promises not to jeopardise me ever. Now I am confused whether he can be consistent as he has been very inconsistent. What should I do ? | |||
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| There are several issues you bring up in your question. The final question is "what should I do?" Consider this carefully. Ask yourself, "How much do I believe that my needs will be met by my husband over the long term?" Take into account whatever information and experience you have at your disposal. You cannot know the future, but you can and must use your best judgment using what you do already know. Do YOU believe that he will be faithful to you? Do YOU believe that he will treat you respectfully? Do YOU believe that he will keep his word to you? Do YOU need to have your step-son living with you and your husband? The answers to these questions are a starting point for you to decide whether or not to continue in the relationship with your husband. But one thing is certain, focus firstly on yourself and what you hope for and need for your own future happiness. Once you have that vision firmly in place, consider whether that future will be enhanced by your relationship with your husband. Your future truly rests in the palm of your hands. Warmest regards, ~mybizcoach |
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| A is married to B who has cheated on her but they are trying to reconcile but B is inconsistent. C loves A but is married to D but wants to keep responsible relationships with both A and D. Whom should A choose ? | |||
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| It seems to me that A should consider that there is a whole world of opportunities beyond B and C. What is most important is to determine what A wants most and pursue that avenue even if it includes Y. ~mybizcoach |
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| Which yoga is useful for making undeveloped breast developed? | |||
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| I should think young women who attentively practice Hatha yoga from 10 years to 20 years of age will most likely see an improvement in breast development. ~mybizcoach |
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| I expect to have hip replacement surgery. I need info on recovery of course I am not Iranian and what's the difference? | |||
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| Convalescence You will remain in the hospital for 3 to 5 days after surgery. However, some people may need to stay temporarily at a rehabilitation unit or long-tern care center until mobility has improved and they are safely able to live independently. These centers will provide intensive physical therapy to assist you in regaining muscle strength and flexibility in the joint. Be careful after surgery that you don't dislocate the artificial hip. The new hip will not have the same range of movement of the original joint, although you should eventually be able to return to your previous level of activity. While you should avoid vigorous sports such skiing or contact sports, many people go on to play tennis and golf quite successfully. The use of crutches or a walker may be necessary for as long as 3 months, although most people who did not use them before are able to walk without them in several weeks. Many surgeons place their patients on blood thinners for several weeks after surgery to help prevent blood clots. These may be taken in the form of pills (either Coumadin or aspirin) or injections. SPECIAL PRECAUTIONS The new joint has a limited range of movement. You will need to take special precautions to avoid displacing the joint, including: * Avoid crossing your legs or ankles even when sitting, standing, or lying. * When sitting, keep you feet about 6 inches apart. * When sitting, keep your knees below the level of your hips. Avoid chairs that are too low. You may sit on a pillow to keep your hips higher than your knees. * When getting up from a chair, slide toward the edge of the chair and then use your walker or crutches for support. * Avoid bending over at the waist. You may consider purchasing a long-handled shoehorn or a sock aid to help you put on and take off your shoes and socks without bending over. Also, an extension reacher or grabber may be helpful for picking up objects that are too low for you to reach. * When lying in bed, place a pillow between your legs to keep the joint in proper alignment. * A special pillow or splint may be used to keep the hip in correct alignment. * An elevated toilet seat may be necessary to keep the knees lower than the hips when sitting on the toilet. |
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| How to stop cat weeing on the floor? | |||
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| Has he been neutered that should help; or put in a cat flap so he can go in and out when he wants, some cats never take to a litter tray. | |||
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| I have a huge vet bill, I paid some of it but they saying they don't take payment plans and they have my dogs. What can I do?? I intent to it but I don't have it all at once and the longer they keep my pets the more they charging me. What should or could I do??? | |||
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| They cant have any right to keep your dogs and charge kennel fees. Can you contact the RSPCA or your national organization? if you are in uk I think I'd go to the police and report them for kidnapping your dogs!!!! | |||
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| I have a huge vet bill, I paid some of it but they saying they don't take payment plans and they have my dogs. What can I do?? I intent to it but I don't have it all at once and the longer they keep my pets the more they charging me. What should or could I do??? | |||
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| The vet can't keep your animals much similar to the hospital which cannot keep you. You can be billed with interest however, but it is regulated by a cap. You may need the advice of an attorney as this doesn't appear to be ethical. Good luck. | |||
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| Anyone know how I can set a web cam up to cover security on my yard? It is some miles from home and I would like to keep an eye on it via a web link if poss. | |||
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| There are a few programs out there that require you to login to a server such as yahoo, for example. try download.com and look for a free or "try before you buy" and see which security software fits your particular requirements. It is fairly simple as long as you configure your camera correctly and even better if your camera has it's own software and is designed for the surveillance task. | |||
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