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Questions answered by Mr Joseph Vempeny  India   (Expert Rank: 2831) Member has an expert rating of 100+
 

My willpower is very very very very weak - What do I do???

I make up my mind to do something, get all the determination, motivation, etc. to back it up, .......... but then ...... If temptation arrives ..... I forget all of it and just give into the temptation. I just don't seem to be able to resist.

Life can not just go on this way. I need help, I need to overcome this problem.

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Question found in Psychology
Life can go on like this and will go on whether you like it or not.

I have a strong feeling (by the choice of your words) that you are worrying unnecessarily. It all depends on 'what it is that you want to do and fail to'. I have a strong suspicion that what you want to do is not all that important in your life. I am 70 years old and for more than half a century I have been trying to do something. But so far I have not succeeded. Now I have realized that I am doing fine even without doing what I wanted to do so badly. That is why I said it all depends on what it is?

I will say you must keep on trying only if byfailing in that you are committing a heneous crime, or if it involves a serious dereliction of duty.

One suggestion is that you change the focus of your goal. Instead of trying to accomplish what you have failed to do so far, try to do something new something positive, like helping others, like living for others, living a life full of pure love. Nothing can beat that.

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How to get back with my baby's father?

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Question found in Parenting & Family In General
It is most likely the vagueness of the wording that prevented any one from answering till now. In a general way, I can such give a very effective way to get your wish. (This is what all the modern teachers of life coaching and success in life are suggesting.) Make an earnest wish for what you want to achieve. Feel confident that you will achieve it. Never doubt that you won't succeed. And then do whatever you think might help in achieving your goal.

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Are nervous disorders transmittable?

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Question found in Health & Fitness In General
Certain types of nervous disorders can be transmited.

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How to discipline my children?

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Question found in Parenting & Family In General
A proper answer to this question will depend on factors like the age of the children and the nature of the problem requiring disciplining. But here I can give a few general points to be remembered in all cases.

1. Try to be understanding. Every misbehavior has a root cause. Try to find this and think how best to remedy this problem. But this is not easy. The easy thing is:

2. Give them lot of love and affection. Try and spend as much time with them. You and the children must look forward to the pleasure of each others' company, not of the television or video games. Talk to them about their needs, likes friends whatever interest them and try to help them improve their lives through positive means.

3. I know parents who work hard for a bright future for their children. My advice is, "Work hard for a bright present." The present is what is important. We don't have much control of the uncertain future. But
"a present perfect can lead to a future perfect".

4. Many parents have recently found that one of the methods of disciplining is withholding of promised gifts, 'time outs' confiscating of a favorite toy and the like.

I agree discipline is important and the best disciplining rod is LOVE. Love begets love. Once they realize from your behaviour and attitudes that you love them they will go out of their way to love you and please you.

Hope you have a good affectionate relationship with your kids.

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I just got married a week ago. My mil and I got along OK at first, but as soon as my husband and I got engaged, things changed. She wanted to pick the brides maids dresses, plan the menu and even had outside family members call to harass and threaten me that no one from his family would come to the wedding unless I did what they wanted. I stood fast and with my parents behind me, had the wedding I wanted. We paid for everything, with no assistance from my husbands family. When it was time, my mother did ask my husbands mother (his father is deceases) to host the rehearsal dinner. She refused at first and the later decided that she would. In the meantime, she spread very ugly and nasty rumours about my family and me. At the wedding, she made faces in our wedding photos. We are from a very small town and her reputation is awful. This women is classless, nasty and evil and I have never heard anyone say anything good about her. she went so far as to admit to me during an argument that she knows that people hate her. I agreed with her. My husband and I are both 30 with no children and we just bought a house. she is not allowed to visit our home at all and my husband agrees with my wish that she not be allowed to visit because of her nastiness. We are trying for a baby and I have discussed with him my desire that she only have contact with any children we have while I am present. He is a wonderful man and good to me, but intimidated by his mother and I am afraid that she will hurt my children to get to me and he will not stand up to her. I wish I could truly express how full of hate and evil this women is and what lengths she will go to and what lies she is willing to tell to get what she wants. My only solution is to keep her away from me and my family. I never tell him that he can't have a relationship with her, but I don't feel that at this point, after all she has said and done, that I need, and definitely don't want a relationship with her. Please help.

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Question found in People & Relationships In General
This attitude of women towards their daughter-in-laws is noticed across all boundaries of nationalities, cultures and even time. One would have expected that with better education and civilization, things would have changed. But the sad fact is that it hasn't. In other words, your experience is not so uncommon. But that does not mean that it is in any way justifiable.
The question is how best to handle it.

For time being you stick to the present arrangements that you have initiated and that your husband has agreed to. But for a lasting solution, for a peaceful, happy married life you have to try some positive steps.

My philosophy of life is based on the following words of great sages. "Evil cannot be overcome by evil." "Live with malice towards none and charity for all." "Love is the instant single remedy for all social maladies." Based on these my suggestions are:
1. Make your husband talk to you about all the good qualities in her, all that he likes about in her, make him give some anecdotes and the like. I know for certain that in every individual there are good qualities. Never, for the next few days talk to him about what she had done or said about you or your family. You also try to find out something good about her.
2. In your heart forgive her and try to forget the unpleasant things concerning her. Try (I know it is not easy; but then much of life is not easy.) to develop feelings of love and affection towards her in your heart. Wish her well. Pray for her. Don’t let the feelings of hatred or anger to raise their head.
3. After a week or two of this preparation, try and communicate with her, first by mail or phone and then in person. Let her know that you are sorry about the present state of relationship and wish to change it. Say things like, "your son said that you have such and such good qualities. I admire them. I am sorry for whatever I did that hurt you. Let us start afresh" or things to that effect. Don’t mention that you have forgiven her as it would imply that she was wrong and no one likes to be accused. She will realise it on her own.
4. You and your husband invite her to a dinner probably at a restaurant, preferably one of her favourite restaurants. When you meet her give a warm hug and try to be good even if she insists on being mean. And channel the conversation through safe tracks. I am sure you can part as friends.

Let me assure you negative attitudes lead to failure in life and make you miserable. Positive attitudes of love and forgiveness make life one of joy and peace all round.

"True love is heaven." A life of hatred and vengefulness is hell. It is up to us to choose if we want to live in haven or hell.

Wish you joy and peace in your life.

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In the KJV of the Holly Bible it says that Joseph was a carpenter. Where does it say that Jesus Christ was a Carpenter? Where does it say Jesus was taught the trade of a carpenter? Please give reference. Thanks ever so much.

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Question found in Bible Studies
As in many other cultures, the son of a carpenter would be considered a carpenter unless he is engaged in another trade. It seems that till the beginning of his public life Jesus hadn't gone into any other trade and most likely stayed at home helping the old man.

I do not think there is any reference to Jesus as a carpenter in the Bible as such. But much of what we know comes through oral and other traditions. These traditions are the source of much of what we know about Jesus, Mary and Joseph.

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If I am writing about an old person's project does the apostrophe come before or after the s?

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Question found in English
The apostrophe comes before the s in all words except those ending in s.
examples:

Joseph's, Thomas', Mathew's, James', children's', child's,

of a person = person's, of a dog = dog's, of dogs = dogs'

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What are psychological functions?

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Question found in Student Studies & Student Life
The term psychological applies to the mental and emotional aspects of humans. The word function in this context stands for something that is done or to be done. Each system of organs have separate functions like digestion, respiration, reproduction. All these and similar ones are physiological functions.

Psychological functions are those relating to the mind and emotions. Let me try to list some of the many. Discretion, thought (both positive and negative) including planning, relationships (how you relate to others),

It is easier to understand the results of some of these functions such as joy, sorrow, pleasure, optimism, depression and so on.

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Can someone please explain, in the most broken-down possible way, how to reverse-factor an algebraic expression? That might not be what the process is actually called, so let me explain what I mean:

Using the FOIL method, I know how to turn (x+2)(x-1) into x squared + x -2. But what is the procedure for getting from x squared + x - 2 to (x+2)(x+1)?

Thanks.

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Question found in Education In General
The operation you mentioned is factorisation. For factorising this type of expressions the method used is splitting the middle term.

x2 + x - 2 must be written as X2 + 2x - x -2. This can then be grouped as
(x2 + 2x) - (x + 2) . This becomes x(x+2) -1(x + 2) which has the common factor x + 2. So this can be written as (x+2) (x - 1)

May I show another example? Factorise X2 + 5X + 6
= X2 + 3x +2x + 6 = (x2 + 3x) + (2x + 6) = x(x + 3) + 2(x+3)
= (x = 3) (x + 2)

I hope I was able to help you.

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What is a summative essay?

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Question found in Education In General
A summative essay is one that summarises and/or evaluates a certain work - a project, product, book or any such -

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