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Im 16 and still in school.. My boyfriend is 23 and im having issues with my mother, he has a job, car and house, and I want to move with him, should I ? |
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| If you were my daughter, you would have issues with me too! You are only 16 and hence have no life experience. Someone who may seem the right guy for you now may not be the right guy anymore when you are 18, 20 or 25. My advice is to stay with your mother and listen to her. She has much more life experience than you. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will wait till you are grown up and have finished your school education. I understand that you want to feel grown up and live with a guy who has a car and a house but you will be surprised how much you will change in the next 10 years. Another matter is that you may end up a single mother and that would close a lot of opportunities later on. Be sensible and enjoy being a teenager while you can, hanging out with your friends and being silly. Don't skip this period in your life. There is plenty of time later to be grown up. |
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Does it mean anything when the same girl will smile at you everytime she walks past you? I work with this girl that I really like and she will smile alot and sometimes we will talk. I know she has a boyfriend but, I don't understand why she will always smile. Ever since the first day she seen me she has been smiling sometimes. She gives me more attention then the other girls. So does it sound like she might be interested a little or is she just being nice? Hope to get some good answers. Thanks |
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I wouldn't read too much it this smiling if I were you. She has a boyfriend, right? So probably she is just a very friendly girl who thinks you are a friendly guy. Try to ask her out for coffee or dinner and talk to her, get to know her better and soon you'll find out if she is really interested in you or just being friendly. |
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Am I a horrible Boyfriend? Is there something wrong with me? Should I end my relationship? ====================================================== I'm in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for a couple years now, starting as long distance relationship visiting when we could, talking and chatting everyday. We decided we needed to be together to grow our relationship, with my career I'm able to travel and do business anywhere, so I relocated on a visitor visa to her country, so I left my friends, family, and life as I knew it to be with her in a new country, language, and culture. We have been living together and we are getting to know more about each-other. I quit smoking and drinking for her because she didn't like it. I'm learning the new language, and spending time with her family and friends on a regular basis.
I've been doing my best to share and help her which I had to learn because I was used to just looking after myself. I feel like I've grown and I'm a better man, but I sometimes miss being able to do whatever I want when I was single. She wants me to be honest with her and not lie, so I do my best to tell her how I'm feeling and the truth. I soon realized that telling her the truth can hurt her, and we get in fights because I tell the truth about things I'm feeling and get it trouble for it, specifically fantasies. It's horrible but, I find myself looking at and fantasying about other women, and it hurts her and it's not nice, so I'm trying to stop, basically in public I just look at my feet or the ground so if any attractive women cross my path I won't see them or be tempted to look at them. Because even if the women cross's my path my girlfriend says "what are you looking at?" even if I don't look. I get confused about my feelings and thoughts, I love my girlfriend and care about her a lot and she's very special to me, but when I see an attractive women if feels nice to look her and fantasize which probably make's me sound and look like a creep and I think that maybe I shouldn't be in a relationship if I can't control these thoughts and feelings, Am I addicted to sexual images? Should I just be alone and not in relationship? I don't talk to other women or try to date them or have sex with them, but maybe I'm having fantasizes because I'm not sexually satisfied, even though I will have sex with my girlfriend everyday. My girlfriend doesn't believe me anymore that I love her or care about her and it makes me sad, but I guess I don't deserve to be with her if I'm having these thoughts of other women. We were planning that she would come back with me to live together in my country, but now she doesn't want to because she says I'm not sure about being with her and it makes her unsure and she doesn't want to leave everything if I'm not sure. I guess I feel like if I'm having these fantasizes then I'm not sure or ready to be committed to her for the rest of my life. I think that besides this we have a good relationship, but now it seems she doesn't believe or trust me anymore, so much for being honest! |
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For a start, total honesty is not a good thing in a relationship. Not honesty but diplomacy is what you need to learn. Most, probably all men, have fantasies about other women if they see beautiful women on the street. That's normal. Also many women have fantasies about other men than their husbands. The mistake you made is that you were TOO honest and hurt your girlfriend by telling her your fantasies. Some women can take it but most women don't like hearing their boyfriends' fantasies involving other women. So now, what can you do?? Well, first of all, shut up about your sexual fantsies about other women. Second, make your girlfriend extra loved, pay extra attention to her and don't even glance at other women on the street or in restaurants when you are with your girlfriend. Reassure her that she is the only one and apologize for your "immature" fantasies and tell her that you have grown up. Do everything possible to make her feel loved and hope that she accept it. This will take some time I think but don't give up and NEVER again mention any fantasies. Once again - diplomacy not total honesty will keep your relationship afloat. Remember this also when she buys a new dress and asks you how she looks in it. Total honesty will kill you. Good luck. |
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MY husband is in jail, and I really do love him. But him being away for so long I catch myself gettn lonely at times........he is not a bad person an we only have like 8 more months to go. Its already been 7 months. Should I wait or move on? |
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I understand that you get lonely at times, that's natural. It's not such a long time anymore, 8 more months so if you really love your husband and if he is indeed not a bad person, you should ask yourself if he's really worth waiting for. What are the chances that he'll end up in jail again? What is he in for? How old are you? What is the alternative? Getting a divorce and starting all over again? All these factors have to be considered carefully before you make the decision of moving on. The very fact of you asking this question here makes it look as if you don't really care much about your husband. Do you write or do you visit him in jail? How often? Are there any male friends who can give you some comfort or sex for the time being without any strings attached? |
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How can I become attracted to my sex partner? |
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II think you are doing things backwards. Think about it: Why are you having sex with someone you are not attracted to? This is the first thing you have to ask yourself. Is it because you are feeling lonely, want to get laid no matter what or are a masochist? If you are not attracted to your sex partner, he or she is probably not the right partner for you. So you should look for a partner you ARE attracted to before you jump into bed, and then you won't have this problem of not being attracted to your sex partner. Comments :  Great answer.....but lonely is def the case. My husbands' in jail!!!!
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I am 22yrs old female and I wanted to know what all activities does a male do during a sexual drive apart from penetration as I dont want to look puzzled when it happens? I have also heard things like sucking the breast etc which I am not sure interests me or not so please lighten me up on the activities that a male does? My partner once kissed me and it was really passionate but I didnt react to his sucking as I was perplexed, his penis raised abit which was really funny, and then moved to other parts of my body. I dont know how to react to all this and am scared that my/this behaviour shoudnt let him down, so plz help? |
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Dear innocent young lady, To answer all your questions would take a lot of detailed explanation. I suggest you buy a book about sexual education and read that first. If you have more questions after that, ask again here. Another way to go would be to ask one of your more sexually experienced girlfriends to tell you what they do with their boyfriends or husbands in bed. Comments : ok let me b frank...wel if i cud hv purchased a bk or ws able 2 surf certain sites i wudnt hv asked u...so plz rpl in detail asap...
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How does a red camera work? |
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Maybe you mean an infrared camera? Infrared light is actually heat radiating from the sun, electric light bulbs, human bodies, etc. Infrared cameras are build to capture those heat rays on infrared sensitive film or on a digital photo chip.
Comments : Red camera does not mean an infrared camera. Red camera is used for shooting.
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Why I sexually misbehaved my sister? |
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You English is not clear. Do you mean that you had sex with your sister? Raped her or sexually harassed her? Why do you ask here why you did what you did? You should know why. Were you sexually attracted to her? Was it an abuse of power over her? Did she provoke you? Anyway, what you did was wrong, no matter what the reason was, so you had better apologize deeply to your sister and make sure it won't happen again. |
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I meet a girl online and we talked about four months. It got to the point where we both decided we wanted to see each other and go on a date. We did the dating ritual and I thought it went well. We laughed, flirted, made funny faces at eat other while eating, and played footsie. We went back to her place and made out a bunch and got to third base. After that, we talked some more and the topic turned towards whether we wanted to actually start actually 'dating.' She proceeded to tell me that she is just really confused right now and doesn't know if she wanted to date me or not. She said there is another guy she has been talking to for about a month and doesn't really know who to pick. She said that the other guy is apprehensive of dating her and says the timing is wrong for them to be a relationship. She said she wouldn't count me out but asked for some time to think it over before she would make a decision. I really like this girl but I don't know if I should pursue it. Should I? |
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| To me this sounds like a bunch of lame excuses. If this girl really liked you, she wouldn't come up with this kind of story but jump into your arms. What she said is a polite and roundabout way to let you know that you are not her type, at least not the guy she wants a full time relationship with. In short, her answer was "No". |
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I found out that my husband is reading gay magazines. We have not had sex in last 11 years. He has lost interest in me. He claims that he loves me but does not want to make love to me. I am very lonely and worried. |
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It's pretty obvious that your husband is gay. It may have taken him also some time to figure this out and admit it to himself but 11 years without sex, that is not a marriage anymore. I don't know how old you are but if I were you, I would get out of this sexless marriage as soon as possible and find a real partner.
Comments : I love this guy so much. I want him back. I don't want to get out of this marriage. May God help me!!!
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