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A few years ago I was in a very stressful situation regarding my mother, whilst trying to maintain a positive family life with my husband and children. I was having considerable trouble coping so I saw a psychologist. Things got worse and I turned to my husband for help. My children were also showing signs of stress. During I found out that my husband belongs to a coven sect. We have been regular church goers. I was very upset by this, especially as he was involved as a guide to help others. I challenged him by saying that he had time for this, but no time or patience for his own family. I nearly left him. I felt that our years together as a couple and as members of our church was a lie. I became more distressed and suicidal. I sought help and have been on antidepressants ever since. I am still uncomfortable with my husband's involvements as I felt betrayed as he had kept it a secret from me for almost 30 years. I know he attends frequent meetings with work committees he is on and with this group. I have chanced on photos of nude group members, one person in particular, when getting an item from his bag on his request. He takes little interest in me and my life and takes no interest in me sexually. I cannot speak to him of any problems as he frequently counters with 'I have problems too'. I am frustrated and feel cut off by this secret life of his. I feel alone and unsure of what is going on and what I can do? |
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Hello there, I suspect that many people at some time or other have felt that the fabric of their world has come a little bit untangled. The foundation of your life was based on a lie and this won't change until you decide what is important to you. Your happiness or his? His life won't change much as he is obligated and will continue to have his needs satisfied through his "interests", yours on the other hand will take great courage if you are to be happy again. Take stock of the options you have, the choices and the consequences and decide what is best for you. Focus on those decisions and let the sadness wait a while, you will have all the time in the world to cry but it isn't now. Then bite the bullet and win through, I suspect you will find a strength that you didn't know you had. You may need advice and you are more than welcome to contact me direct if I can help further. Best of luck and kind regards. :) Comments :  Thank you for the advice. I will work on it.Slightly Less Confused 
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Can people accuse others of stealing without proof? |
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Hello, People can accuse but without proof then it is just rumour and gossip. The question is why are they accusing you? Is there anything happening or has happened recently. Are they jealous of you for some reason? Whatever happens don't let it get to you nor can you allow yourself to take it personally, if you do then they have won. Keep smiling tell them to go to hell and ignore them. Take care |
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The contents of the small intestine are liquid but the feces are much more solid. Can you explain what causes this to happen? |
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The answer is a simple one, fluids are "syphoned" off via the kidneys and the solids will eventually pass through the small intestine and end up passing out via the anus whereas fluids will leave via the urethra. I don't think that I've missed anything out...... :) Regards |
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My husband wants to keep the photo of his x wife in the house. Even he always tell me that I too need to remember her as I am looking after her kids. Sometime he tells me if I love him and the kids I will keep the photo. I don't want to do that? but I don't want to make him feel bad or hurt. What should I do? |
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He seems to want to cling on to something for whatever reason? I would suggest that you find out what. Bear in mind that if the reason is a genuine one he won't mind telling you and if it isn't then be suspicious and ask more questions. The bottom line for you should be that your concerns are met and expelled he should know that and be willing to explain his actions, logically. Take care |
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My partner and I have been talking about taking a trip without the children for a birthday of mine. We don't live close to family so my son doesn't have really close relationships with them so I cannot decide which year to go away as he will only be 13 months by my next birthday. At what age would it be best to leave my son for a few days without him being affected by separation anxiety? |
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Well that would depend on who you left your child with? If its with known family, friends and your son would feel settled then it maybe OK. If not then think hard about your options and don't do anything that you may later regret, or your son. |
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Why do we need to eat? |
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Hello, good question. We are all living organisms, and as such we will need to perform the following to survive as well as our species. Be born, eat, remove waste, replicate, die. Most creatures do all of those, but humans and some primates have added an extra one; we know how to party! Eating, allows us to gain the necessary nutrients and calories to stay alive long enough to further the species, or if you are Kate Moss it will allow you just long enough to find a dodgy boyfriend. We are in effect just a humble vehicle for our genes, and long may that continue....... :) Regards |
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Bad headache, behind eyes, 3 days?? |
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It may be worth having a chat with your doctor just to rule out anything more serious but I suspect it maybe one of the following: Bad eyes, so get your eyes checked out or tension which maybe caused by stress or looking at a computer screen (or other item) too long. Either way it shouldn't be anything to worry about. Kind regards |
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Very severe soreness of the gums have been on antibiotics for over a week and that still hasn't worked. I have been taking panadeine forte plus nufefen plus but there is still no pain relief I have also have been using a gel for the mouth to numb it, which still hasn't given me any relief. The pain is a 10 out of 10 plus. |
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Sounds like a job for a dentist as you may have some form of gum disease? Either way get it checked out and you should start to feel a whole lot better. It's a shame I can't see what it looks like. Take care and I hope you are sorted very soon. Regards |
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I am married with 2 kids and we live with parents for the past two years and we are having money problems. I don't feel that he loves me the way a husband should love his wife and I think that he is content living with us living with my mother. I feel like he wants to be some where else. Am I wrong for wanting to leave him? My ex and I are still friends and he still loves me. What do you think I should do? |
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This is not an unusual situation. You are both under a lot of stress and living under someone else's roof will only make matters worse. If you are both at a loss as to how to move forward then that will only add to your feelings of not being recognised and for him it will affect his manly image as he should be providing for you all. Having contact with your ex is just another aspect to an already complicated environment. You both need to sit down and simplify your life. Discuss the following areas, with open minds! Work: Are you both? Is one of you?? Respective needs: Is it only the stress that is affecting your relationship? Your Mum: She maybe feeling the strain as well, can you afford to rent? Debts: Concentrate on the necessities first, offer to pay them a minimum so sparing cash for other options. this could be traveling expenses or child minding? How old are your kids: If they are old enough they should be encouraged to be more independent so freeing up your time? You could do some evening work? I think that you get the jist of where I'm coming from as I don't know your specific circumstances. Just don't fall in to the trap of the grass being greener where your ex lives unless that is what you really both want and you have explored the other options first, it maybe just a game or his hormones for him but you have the most to lose if you are wrong. Be careful and I wish all of you well. Regards |
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12 month old son having sleepless nights?? |
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It may just be nightmares. Something may have startled him somehow. You may never find out what it is but just be calming, don't lose patience and be reassuring. He will forget soon. And even quicker if you let him see that everything is alright. Regards |
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