Us guys are dogs. I am 45 now and I got my first xbox at 42. Mostly for my grandson and me to enjoy in time specifically set aside for it.. Young fellows tend to try to escape reality due to the stresses of a job, marriage, kids, etc. They don't always intend for it to be this way it just happens. Age and maturity will sometimes solve this problem. If he is intensely playing a game or working on something and you question him, he might "bite back" due to the way the question is asked or the timing of it. This does not always mean that there isn't a problem with respect, but generally speaking, it comes down to the timing of events which sometimes can be controlled.
Sometimes, by suspending some of his assumed "privileges", it will get his attention but be careful. If he hits on you, you don't need him. I still get the "thousand yard stare", but i am learning better how to pay attention more to the things that are most important. My 5 year old grandson teaches me a lot due to the innocence of his age. Guys are hard to understand because they think much differently.
Ask him next time, (calmly if you aren't already doing this), if he would pause the game when it's easiest for him and let him know that you can only wait so long until he does. Remind him that the game is certainly challenging, but you have something that you feel is important enough to interrupt what he is doing only for a short time. If he has to stop for other reasons, make a mental note and use that to your advantage, just don't be manipulative in anger or revenge because it will not work that way. Do it positive and it will amaze both you and him. I hope this was helpful and good luck.
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